It happened in my life that now I am a mother -in -law, because my son married, and now I also have a daughter -in -law. Before my son married, I very often heard complaints about my girlfriends, they were both petty and serious, I somehow tried to always be neutral in this matter: listen to and silent. It seemed to me that they were guilty that they did not have a relationship with their sons. But now that I myself became my mother -in -law and faced the same situation, my attitude, honestly, has completely changed in this matter. And the thing is that no matter how I try to be a good mother -in -law for my son’s wife, this woman turns everything as she needs, though I never wished them anything wrong. And she is absolutely indifferent to what others feel. She is not interested in and does not care that her actions and words can cause a person to be grief. Here she needs it, and everything that others want her is not interested in.

After my son’s wedding, I tried to prepare something from what he loves, and came to visit them to treat, well, and at the same time see my children. At first my son and his wife arranged everything, everyone was satisfied. My freshly prepared dishes were wearing both cheeks, especially the daughter -in -law liked everything. I was pleased, of course, that my efforts did not pass the gift, that I was valued and treat me well, I thought that I had a warm and sincere relationship with my children. It is very nice to see how your hotels are happy to disappear from the table, and you only see happy faces. In one of the evenings, when I came to visit the children, my son was not at home, he was still at work. My daughter -in -law and I sat down to drink tea. Everything was as usual, with one difference: the daughter -in -law could not decide in any way, to say something. After a long thought, she said that I did not come to them so often, better let my son go to visit me. In these words in her eyes there was some such an unpleasant fire of anger.

After this conversation, I, of course, stopped going to my son at all. He was visiting us regularly, but always himself, his wife did not come with him once. It pleased me and upset me at the same time. I always tried to have peace and understanding in our family. And this woman destroyed everything with her selfish attitude towards her husband’s relatives. How much I see and understand everything, then nothing depends on me. We recently had a grandson. This joy is immense to us. This baby brings so much happiness that you want to live and enjoy life. My husband and I also tried not to bother the daughter -in -law, and they went to visit them very rarely, and when we were invited to ourselves. But we tried to take the grandson for a walk so that you do not appear before her eyes for too long. We and my grandfather were enough. But recently, the daughter -in -law called me and offered to sit with her grandson at home while she goes in her business. And the most annoying she did not ask, but suggested that I need it, not her!

That is, she, it turns out, can not cross because of her pride, apologize for those words and simply humanly continue to communicate with us, we are the parents of her husband; I raised my son well for her! Have we not deserved elementary respect and understanding on its part by our attitude? I thought a little, weighed everything and said that she brought her grandson to us, as she herself forbade me to come home once again, and I do not want to be present for a long time in their home and get someone. After these words, she subsided a little, and agreed to bring her grandson to us. On this day, we talked with the boy, he is so sweet and funny. What a happiness when there is a little native child! Only now I am worried about the question: how to behave with a daughter -in -law? Continue to pay for her the same coin or be smarter and stop being offended? For my grandson, I am ready to take the first step. Will this son’s wife appreciate and do I need it at all? Life and time will show, but I will not be so stupid, because I am also a person and have my dignity and pride.