I am 61, a man for several years older. We live in the city in a small apartment. The oldest daughter abroad, younger in the capital. He already has two children. Unfortunately, at the beginning of this summer, my mom died. The village remained in the village – at all. Lem’s test is that my father needs care, which is what my mother has done in the last years of her life.

Now my father is 85 years old. It can be said that he is practically unable to do something on his own. I can’t pick up my father: we have a very small apartment. I can not move to the village either: there are no amenities, there is no hot water, the toilet on the street. Maybe if I were 20-30 years old, I would go to a village without a nibel. But now I’m not young. Plus, too, I will need a domag and support soon with my husband. Therefore, you should protect the greetings as far as possible.

The only option is to find a caregiver for the father. But the problem of this decision is that all the villagers condemn me and whisper from each other as I am a daughter. But I do not send my father to the house for the elderly with the stagnant conditions! What is the noblem? I can’t get 50 km to my father every day. But now I have to think about my relatives, and in the opinion of people somehow to sneeze.