A week ago, I, now a pensioner, made an important act – went to a notary and made a testament, informing her sons in advance. It seemed important for me to arrange everything officially, although I plan to live for a very long time. I have two sons, 40 and 35, both independent, with their own families and homes, although they are still paying a mortgage. The older son has school -age children, and the younger is waiting for the firstborn. From the very beginning, I have not had a relationship with my eldest son’s wife. Despite my attempts to establish a relationship with her with home baking and gifts, she always seemed dissatisfied and discharged.

I once gave her an expensive dress and then learned that she had thrown it. This further worsened our relationship, and it seemed to me that she was adjusting my son against me. On the other hand, my relationship with his younger son’s wife is the complete opposite. She is friendly, compassionate and often addresses me for advice. She is a wonderful housewife, even in late pregnancy, and always shows gratitude for my gifts. I feel more grandmother for her unborn baby than for my older son’s children.

Due to such dynamics, I decided to leave most of my property to his younger son because I feel closer to his family. The wife of his eldest son, who often complained about my commitment, was upset by learning about it. She never appreciated my gestures and even rejected my gifts, preferring to support her parents. This decision has caused a discussion among friends about whether I have properly distributed my property in such a way that it may be possible to cause friction between my sons. Some argue that the mother’s commitment should be earned, while others believe that everything should be divided equally. But I have already made a decision.